Not all deaths are alike. Death at the end of a long, full life is sad. The death of a spouse can be taken as an irreconcilable loss. The grief could be intolerable and may last for very long. There's this powerful sense of loss as well as emotional pain, a natural part of the process of grieving.
It may take a while to move on especially during the earlier stages of the grieving process. While some may be ready to move on after a few weeks, others can grieve for years. But time and a lot of patience play an important role for grief to subside. It also comes with a chance for a deeper healing.
There's no formula for one to move on through the process of grieving with grace, but the spiritual keys below may just be all you need to ease your grieving heart and make everything a meaningful experience.
1. Remember your spouse with honor and in gratitude.
Knowing how much your spouse has given to your happiness honors the great love that he or she had for you and his or her place in your life. When they are remembered with gratitude, you are filled with lots of memorable experiences you cherished as well as those you have taken for granted. You can have a journal and write entries about how your significant other has inspired you, helped you to grow, and shaped your life. Through gratitude, new meaning is brought to your relationship.
2. Forgive to set your heart free from pain and regret.
Forgiveness is a measure of the love that you give to yourself and to your departed loved one. If you forgive truly, it frees you of enduring pain from the past and it releases your soul and their souls of any burden. After your spouse's death, forgive yourself for anything that is left unsaid or unfinished to ease the pain and regret.
3. Acknowledge signs that their spirits live on.
Having faith in the afterlife is the experience of surrendering to your spouse's continued presence but in spirit form. A butterfly fluttering above you, a dream of them touching your face, or the wind rustling the branches of a tree may all be seen as signs of their continued connection and communication. You should honor these communications and acknowledge that your significant other lives on and may even be there to protect and guide you.