True happiness comes from within yourself, and is usually acquired after you have developed your levels of confidence and security and have a strong faith in God.
The beginning of security is learning to laugh at yourself, realizing that no one, including yourself, is perfect.
As the age-old saying goes: If you can't laugh at yourself, who can you laugh at? I find that the ability to joke and laugh about my own flaws, shortcomings or "blond moments" enhances my confidence and my own self esteem.
It's my way of informing those around me that 1) I'm not perfect, 2) I make mistakes and last but definitely not least 3) I love and accept myself for who I am.
Jeanne Robertson, one of America's most loved and respected humorists, states: "We can never truly learn to laugh at ourselves until we learn to accept the things about ourselves that are either impossible or impractical to be changed.
" Knowing who you are and accepting yourself the way you are is the first step in obtaining happiness in life.
One of the biggest challenges we face in life is becoming comfortable with ourselves and loving ourselves, despite our flaws and imperfections, as God did not create humans to be perfect.
All of us have some aspects that don't meet our own approval.
If you find there are qualities about yourself that you are not happy with, then find ways to change or improve those aspects about yourself which in turn, helps you to build your confidence and boosts your emotional energy.
Confidence is usually a gradual process, and many people are of the opinion that confidence comes with age and wisdom.
I partially agree with this statement.
I strongly believe that confidence comes not only with age and wisdom, but also from spirituality and on how one recovers and heals from life's trials and tribulations.
I believe that everyone has two choices: 1) You can sit around feeling sorry for yourself and manipulate others into joining your "pity-party" or 2) You can find something positive that you've learnt from the bad times and use this knowledge and experience to make you a better and stronger person.
My opinion is that trials and tribulations in our lives are God's testing periods; tests of one's patience, endurance and faith.
To those who wish to sit around whining and complaining about all of their misfortunes, I encourage you to read the Book of Job in the Bible.
Job Chapter 1 speaks of Job's first test where virtually everything Job has worked for and deeply loves including his children are taken from him.
But in all of this, Job did not sin by blaming God.
Job Chapter 2 speaks of Job's second test where his health was taken from him; he was struck with terrible boils from head to foot.
In all of this, Job still said nothing against God; he accepted not only the good things from the hand of God, but also the bad.
Job suffered immensely due to the trials the Lord had brought against him, but through it all, Job maintained his confidence, integrity, and faith in God.
Job passed God's difficult testing period and in the end, in Job Chapter 42, the Lord blessed Job by rewarding him for his patience, endurance and unyielding faith by giving him more in the second half of his life than in the beginning of his life.
Job lived to see four generations of his children and grandchildren, as he lived 140 years after that.
Job created his own destiny; he died an old man who had lived a long full life.
I don't believe that anyone is ever 100% completely secure within themselves, as life is ever-changing and there is always room to learn and grow.
We all face trials and tribulations during our lifetimes, sometimes life's experiences can become almost unbearable because adapting to change is never easy or comfortable.
As Alan Cohen, American author, states: " It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new.
But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful.
There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.
" We all control or create our own destiny.
Realizing that true happiness is something you decide internally by developing your levels of confidence and security and having faith in God, and not something that you get from people or possessions will help to create your own destiny and hopefully live a long full life.